alright well good news is Pamela is all good. Long story short, is i hate to say this but our bishop in this ward really will not to anything for us. so we called up another member in our ward who was a mission president a few years ago. right away he said he would visit them. It turned out alright. everything is kinda back to normal now. Pamela said she was repenting that whole nighht for saying those things haha. she still didnt go to church this week but she said it had nothing to do with that. she said the baby was up all night. but rafael and their oldest kid still walked to church! they are still arguing a lot as a couple and we are gonna start tonight being more serious with them and teaching a real lesson everytime we are there about humility, blaming others, etc. So joão talked with his dad and told him he wanted to baptized. the dad talked with us and said he wasnt gonna allow it and didnt even wanna let him go to church anymore (ughhh). i have no idea why he wouldnt...